Don't bag out my home town and then say hey how are you?!?!

Before I continue with my blogs about my Indian and Thailand trip, I thought an update on where things were at with the boy was in order...

So after hadn't heard from this guy i was not seeing, I decided that an email was in order. See I am not good at communicating with men, face to face because as a former fat girl, interacting with men was never my strong point.

I can do pretty much anything else but when it comes to feelings... nope you've got me there.

I am Baby from Dirty Dancing, with a watermelon. I have watermelon moments every time!

So I sent the email the day before Australia Day and ask him to clarify if we are friends. I press send and then that's that.

I thought he would call me straight away or at least email me a response.

Two weeks later, and still nothing.

But wait after deciding that he had died in a tragic fairy floss accident, he calls. At this point, I have made my peace and can't be bothered answering his call.

I will remind you that it has been two weeks and no reply... please come on, you can see it from my point of view on this point? See I thought he saw the email and said 'thanks, but no thanks' and yet here he was calling me, two weeks to the day of the email (kudos for calling).

The next day, after much deliberations and questioning about why I needed to speak to him, he calls again and this time I answer. At this point, I had decided that nothing he could say would change my mind and make me not want to slap him with a wet fish but I answered the call because I needed to know why.

He started with small chit chat about the weather, how he had spent time in Sydney and doing his renovations. I smiled, nodded and occasionally answered his various stupid questions and then the Canberra bashing happened.

Now, I am used to it but you've left my email unanswered for two weeks and now you are bashing my home town. Yeah Canberra can be perceived as clicky, insular and isolating but that's to people who are incapable of making an effort, are dull or have nothing to add.

If you want to make new friends and give your new city a go, you have to be the one that makes the effort; not the other way around. This is exactly what I said to him. word for word.

He then decides that he wants me to explain my email, I do not. I've done enough talking. The spotlight is now on him and its his turn to reply... its not good. He said he just opened the email (lie number one), and that he wanted to be friends but he did like me but couldn't see past that (lie number two).

I explained to him that he has been dishonest and lied right from the beginning. He says he didn't mislead me, and I refute that by reminding him he joined a dating website. End of discussion.

I explained to him that I am honest and upfront kind of person, and am that way with my family and friends. And I get that in return. He has lied right from the beginning and that's that. If you can't be honest with someone you clearly like (and spend nearly ever weekend with her, and take her out to dinner, meet the family etc) then I don't want to know you. Without honesty, what's the point!

And that's the end of that discussion.