Don’t put the penis on a pedestal.

Yes that’s right... don't put the penis on a pedestal.

One of my great friends mentioned a website the other day that I just had to share. The website, Her Canberra, is focused on all things Canberra, and all things woman. Roar!

Anyway there was a particular article that I had to share because I can. :-P

While I don't agree with it all, there a parts of it that are true, and all woman are guilty of doing one or all at one point in their life. 

Don’t put the penis on a pedestal.

As wonderful as the guy you are currently dating is, he is at the end of the day just a guy – not some sort of demigod. He is a human being with many wonderful qualities and just as many faults – no more, no less. And if it doesn’t work out, then there will, eventually, after a lot of crying and too much wine drinking, be another one to take his place. So don’t give him more power over your happiness then he deserves.

Stop stressing and make yourself happy.

If you want to call him, then do it (within reason – nobody likes a crazy stalker). If you want to sleep with him, go for it (but be aware of the risks). If you want to go out dancing with your girlfriends and he’s acting like a jealous moron – then ignore him and go anyway. Basically, stop worrying so much about what he likes, what he thinks, what he wants and just make yourself happy. If it doesn’t work out then he wasn’t the right one for you, learn from it and move on.

Do not; I repeat do not go changing who you are to please a man.

It never works, eventually the facade will crack and your true self will be revealed. And really do you want him to love the real you warts and all or some fake, sanitised version of yourself? The only reason to change is if something you’re doing is not making you happy or not getting you what you want. For example if you want a serious relationship then own that and don’t settle for anything less. Casual sex is fine – if you’re happy with that but if you’re not then don’t go there. And don’t worry whichever side of the debate you land on the right person for you will share your values.

To find a great man, you need to be a great girl.

If you’re a fun, friendly, happy, decent person who is out there living life and enjoying themselves then when the timing is right you will meet the right person. I mean given the choice between a wonderful, charismatic, interesting, confident, mature and self reliant man; and a childish loser with a bad attitude, no friends or interests and a massive chip on his shoulder who reeks of desperation and bitterness which one would you want to date? Yeah that’s what I thought.

And most importantly

A man is not a plan.

Friends, family, career, passions, hobbies, travel, freedom, financial stability, good health – these are my life, my cake if you will. And men, well they’re just the icing. Cake is yummier with icing but without it, it’s still cake. And as the say goes ‘you can’t hurry love’. So you can sit around waiting for the icing while your cake goes stale, or you can enjoy what you have right now, right in front of you. Which is the opportunity to be happy and fabulous doing whatever the hell you god damn please. The right icing may or may not ever turn up but if you bake the best cake you possibly can and put it out there proudly for all the world to see then you have the best chance of finding it.