How one spends their evening in the company of women

I spent two evenings this weekend in the company of women.

Friday night, two women who are spoken for (one married, one in a long term relationship).

Saturday night, two women, both single girls, and looking for relationships.

And both lots spoke about men to no end. The talk of men took up 80 per cent of the conversation than anything else. Now I did contribute to the conversation but I did think it was a little odd that we managed to focus purely on men and relationships.

When I was single, I don’t think I spent that much time speaking about men. And I was single for a very long time.

It’s not a bad thing to talk about men and relationships. Honestly it is a very important subject, and being a girl in a relationship with a man, I have invested interest in the subject.

But on Friday night, the question about the status of my relationship came up and two women asked me, incessantly, to divulge information which I was not prepared to and it annoyed me.

My relationship is my business.

I learnt my lesson from my now ex-friend who tried to tell me what I should do and what the now ex-boyfriend, or whatever he was, should be doing and in the end, the relationship was doomed. And it was not entirely said ex friend’s fault but she hated him from the start and did everything to destroy (even talking to him behind my back about what I apparently wanted). He was, in end, a douche arsehole but I learnt that no one… I mean no one… can comment on my relationships. Period.

The only people that can are the two people in the relationship because they are the only two who really know what’s going on.

Saturday night, the question of my relationship wasn’t a factor. It was relationships in general. One friend went on and on and on about how she didn’t want a relationship but kept talking about relationships. We all nodded our heads in unison when she said that. Clearly my lovely friend wants a relationship.

I spent my Saturday night with girls talking about boys, having cocktails and enjoying each other’s company. And the best part, my boyfriend, was sitting right next to me, having a great time and enjoying my friends' company.

The only comments my two girlfriends made about my boyfriend was that he was sweet, wonderful and… well… and other wonderful things. My other two friends’ actually said similar sweet things but it was after I said enough. Bless ‘em.

Oh crap!

I just realised half of this blog is about relationship. Crap!

I walked into that.

Oh well, if you can’t beat it, join it.